Good communication, love, support and understanding are the things you should consider. If they are, run to the altar, in or out of the temple. I have rediscovered what I love about the church but choose not to attend or participate. And Mormons were basically encouraged to marry other mormons. The fact that she's planning to go on a mission should help. Somewhere down the road, you will find another girl who will be a much better match for you. It was more about my own spirituality and our relationship in our marriage. Certainly there are such people in the church, but there are such people in any organization, and I would challenge you to remember that the members are also individuals with thoughts, feelings and the ability to rebel in their own ways. I volunteer every week, I put others before myself, etc.
At the risk of overloading this post, I'm going to copy and paste here, a Reddit comment that I made in this exmo sub the other day. As a general authority I knew, now deceased, told me in the mid-eightiesвIf you find a good man who is not LDS, marry him. It comes from patience, tolerance, positivity and goodwill not just for our families, but for the people that our spouses are positively impacting, as well. Here are my thoughts as someone who grew up with a non-mormon father and as someone who married a non-mormon girl. About the time I was ready to return for my doctorate a chronic illness hit. But those days may be gone. Living in an interfaith, marriage can be hell. His hectic job aside, he is an amazing man, very loving and family oriented, which is what I have always wanted. God will help you both work this out. I am not sorry I married outside the LDS faith.
I was born and raised in the LDS faith. Not one little bit. The important thing is doing it together.
Because what are Mormons about. Like, she thought that serving would remedy her of any doubts or testimony issues. Be gentle with them and yourself. Is it wrong not to. Now I feel like a stepford wife. A straight-laced, returned sister missionary, raised in the cult, and in family of similarly entrenched cult members, will not likely remain happy with a non-member.